Friday, February 28, 2014

Feeling feminine by dressing with style amidst TSW

Throughout this whole TSW experience, I've been trying to stay as positive as possible (sometimes with more or less success).

One way that I've been trying to accomplish this is by dressing well.  It might sound silly to some folks, but I'm sure that everyone undergoing TSW feels self-conscious and even a little embarrassed at times because we don't look "normal."  My skin makes me feel anything but feminine, so I've been trying to compensate by wearing clothes that make me feel a little prettier but also feel comfortable for my skin.

Tying my hair up in a cotton scarf has not only helped me to feel more comfortable--no hair touching my face or neck--but it also makes me feel pretty depending on how I tie it.

I've mostly been tying it like this when I go out:


I usually tie it like this in the evening because it feels a little more sturdy on my head (also looks a little more house-wifey):



All of the clothes that I've been wearing are cotton. I've mostly been wearing dresses with leggings.  It's very comfortable but it also feels very girly.  Since most of my dresses are short-sleeved, I have a ton of cotton cardigans to cover the sensitive skin on my arms.  They also keep me warm during this cold weather!

In addition to the scarf wrapped around my head, I've also been wearing a scarf around my neck.  Double scarf!


A little Bohemian, perhaps?



On days that my neck feels less sensitive, I might try to go without the neck scarf.


(I guess my dress makes me look pregnant?  I'm not pregnant.)

Like I said, this might seem silly to some folks, but TSW is so difficult because we're not just dealing with the pain and discomfort of our ailment (which is awful enough!).  We're also dealing with our physical appearance being altered.  We neither feel or look like ourselves; both of which take a huge toll on our ability to cope.  I'm finding that it helps me mentally when I pay attention to dressing well, even when I'm feeling my worst.




2 comments:

  1. I love that you handle it this way. So positive. I wish I would've tried harder with my appearance.

    Unfortunately I went the other direction. I wore a hat to hide as much of my face as I could, and left my hair down (again to hide my face and neck) and since most clothes hurt my skin, I stuck to the same few shirts/coats.

    I hope you can continue to keep up the fashion. I love the double scarf! Maybe I can learn some fashion tips. :)

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  2. You look super cute and comfortable! I think I've just been inspired to go on a shopping spree :)

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